How to Help Someone Dealing With Grief

Do you know how to help someone who is dealing with grief? Most people would probably tell you they don’t. When a friend or family member is dealing with the death of a loved one, it’s tough to know how to help. Grief is a tricky, deeply personal journey, and being there for someone grieving means showing patience, understanding, and a whole lot of heart. Here are some ways you can help a bereaved person through the tough moments, making sure your support is both caring and truly helpful.

Just Listen

The best thing you can do to help someone who is dealing with grief? Listen. Really listen. When someone’s grieving, they need to talk about their loss, their loved one, and their feelings—sometimes over and over. Your job isn’t to judge or offer quick fixes to the grieving person, but to be a comforting ear, letting them share their story in their own way and time.

Share Your Memories, But Gently

It’s okay to share your own memories of the deceased person, but tread lightly. Your stories can show the bereaved that their loved one’s life touched many, but be careful not to overshadow their grief with your own. Saying “I can’t even imagine what you’re going through” is often more comforting than “I know exactly how you feel.”

Grief Has No Stopwatch

Everyone’s grief timeline is different. For some, healing comes quickly, for others, it’s a longer road. It’s important not to rush them or set a deadline for their grief. Just be there. Offer support, whether it’s been a few weeks or a few years.

Everyone Grieves Differently

Grief comes in many forms. Some people might cry a lot, some might get angry, and others might even laugh occasionally. It’s all normal. No one thing is necessarily the right thing. Be a friend who understands that there’s no one-size-fits-all way to handle loss.

Celebrate the Life Lived

Helping your grieving friend or family member remember and celebrate the life of their loved one can be a beautiful way to heal. Share stories, look at old photos, or do something that their loved one enjoyed. Creating small rituals, especially during a difficult time like an anniversary, can be really meaningful.

Keep an Eye Out

Lend a Hand in Everyday Life

Sometimes, the most helpful thing you can do to support someone is to help with the everyday stuff. Offer to do their grocery shopping, help around the house, or just be there to handle the small things. These acts of kindness can be a huge relief during a time of loss.

Suggest Professional Help When Needed

While your support is invaluable, there are times when a professional, like someone from a grief support group or health care provider, can offer the kind of help you can’t. Encouraging your loved one to seek this support can be one of the best things you can do for them.

Knowing how to help someone who is dealing with grief isn’t about always saying or doing the perfect thing. It’s about showing up, being present, and letting them know they’re not alone in their pain. Everyone’s grief journey is unique, and by being patient, understanding, and genuinely caring, you can make a real difference in their healing process.


Disclaimer: The content on this site is meant for general informational purposes and should not be considered professional advice. While we strive for accuracy, we recommend consulting experts for specific guidance. We are not responsible for any decisions made based on this information.


Liz Craven
Liz Craven

Liz Craven, co-publisher of Sage Aging ElderCare Guide alongside her husband Wes, brings a blend of personal experience and heartfelt dedication to her work. Their path in eldercare started with a family story — caring for Wes' grandmother, Mabel, who faced Alzheimer's. This personal chapter not only highlighted the complexities of eldercare but also ignited their passion to support others in similar situations. Later, Liz and Wes filled the caregiver role three more times for their parents. Through the Sage Aging ElderCare Guide, Liz offers a mix of empathetic insight and practical advice, making eldercare more approachable and less daunting for families. Her commitment shines through in every piece of advice, aiming to ease the journey for others as they navigate the world of eldercare.

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